Dear Editor,
I am writing to express my disagreement over helicopter parenting and what qualities good parents should possess.
First of all, helicopter parenting will harm the relationship between parents and children. A survey shows that children will retort their parents when they keep an watchful eye on their children. In 154 junior form students,90% of them have argued with their parents because of the restriction of their parents. Helicopter parents hover their children all the time and do not let them make choices. As a result, children may fight against their rules as children do not have the freedom of making decisions. It may even cause a breakdown of relationship!
Moreover, the protection of the helicopter parents makes their children self-centred. Some helicopter parents make a complaint to their school teachers because of the little punishment. As a result, their children always think they are right. They won’t think they are wrong when they make mistakes as their over-indulgent parents protect them all the time and don’t let them get hurt.The consequence may become serious. They will rely on their parents even though they become an adult. Some university graduates bring their mums to job interviews! They can’t be independent and they can’t survive in the society. Helicopter parenting is actually bringing harms to the children.
There are some qualities that good,successful parents should possess.In my opinion, an understanding parent plays an important role in their children’s lives. An understanding parent will know the difficulties of their children. They are willing to change their mind regarding the unrealistic expectations. For example, when their children tell them that they are piled large pressure,they will have reflection. They won’t force their kids to have a blind pursuit of good grades because they understand it will wear them down. Instead, they will focus more on their feelings and personality, but not only their academic results.
Also, patience is another quality that good parents should possess. Do not blame their children too often. Teenagers have their own ideas. If parents always scold them, there may be negative effects and their children may turn a blind eye to their scolding. Parents may advise them and encourage them.
To sum up, I disagree with helicopter parenting due to the relationship problems and the fact that the children may become self-centred. Also , I think patience and understanding are qualities that good parents should possess.
Yours faithfully,
Kelly Mok